Finding your strength: Why not?

I went to OTF this morning and heard the greatest thing from the trainer right before I was hiking up the treadmill at a 15% incline at 3.7 MPH:

“Don’t let your mind dictate what your body can do.”

– Jerry, OTF Trainer/Coach


And I thought to myself, “yeah, why should I let my mind dictate what my body can do?” And then I thought, “I shouldn’t even let my mind dictate what I can do.” So naturally I increased my speed to 4.0 MPH. Ha! But immediately after, I started remembering the most infuriating thing my best friend would always tell me whenever he said he was going to do something out of the norm that I and the rest of society designated as ‘weird’ or ‘unacceptable’ or even ‘careless’. Nicky’s response was always… “Why not?” I almost never had a good answer to that question. I mean, why can’t Nicky eat a green pepper like it’s an apple? And why can’t Nicky get the gay pride flag tattooed on his calf while living in the most homophobic city in the south? And why can’t Nicky marry a man more than twice his age and breed parrots despite being allergic to them? And at the age of 12, why can’t Nicky climb a cliff above what we called Dead Man’s Cave and walk on the edge of the elevated train tracks? And why can’t we go to the Village at 11 p.m. and get a random body part pierced and/or get a random tattoo?

Hmmm…why not? This is a very  powerful question. So I’m going to adopt that question as my motto and I’m going to recite that to myself whenever that voice in my head dares to speak up and say that I cannot do something because I’m not smart enough, or ambitious enough, or talented enough or deserving enough. Because at the end of the day, regardless if any of that is true, I owe it to myself to try. Heck, you owe it to yourself to try. Don’t let your mind dictate what your body can do, even if the reasons seem logical. Don’t compare yourself to someone else who is on her own personal journey. And certainly don’t fall into that trap about not having any time because we all have the same amount of time in a day. We all only have the same 24 hours in a day.

“It’s not about time, it’s about choices.”

– Beverly Adamo


So make the choice that sits well with your authentic self every moment, every day, and say to yourself (and any naysayer )- “Why not?” …Umm…just be sure to remember that the question is rhetorical. Recite that question and hold on to the power in that phrase. That’s how you will build your confidence and continue to find the strength and love you need in your life to move forward. I promise you…I promise us.

2 thoughts on “Finding your strength: Why not?

  1. LOOOOOVEEE THIS!!! Yeah cause WHY NOT!!? Why the hell not!? Why can’t I move to California? Why can’t I be a top Beachbody Coach? Why can’t I NOT have kids? I think people don’t like to ask WHY NOT because asking that questions opens up a whole can of fear thats holding them back. If we ask ourselves, WHY NOT, everytime we think that we can’t do something, it means we’re gonna have to get our ass up and actually try to do it…and that scares people. Fear paralyzes the best of us. Me included. Thats why this simple phrase is rarely spoken or not common tongue so many of us live our lives in fear. We live in this comfort zone because its safe, because its warm, because its familiar. The moment we start to think outside the box and start asking why not me? Why can’t I do this or that? Its empowering, yet scary at the same time. BUT like you said, we need to learn to challenge ourselves more and not think too damn much about why we should or shouldn’t do this or that. Just DO IT, cause WHY NOT?
    FYI – I’m a HUGE FAN of your blogs! Lovez them all!

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    • Exactly! Why can’t you be a top Beachbody Coach? You absolutely can!! Why not work towards our goals and dreams? What the heck else do we have to do on this planet, right? The only thing we need to do is to get all those voices out of our heads and whenever our instinct kicks in, say “Why not?” and bulldoze forward.

      I’m so glad you like the blogs Lanie. It means alot. I love writing them. =)

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